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On Thursday, March 30, 2006, I began my new quit. To learn how I got here, read Starting Over. If you want to read the diary from my first quit, click here. Some may wonder, with the advent of blogs, why I choose to keep the diary as part of this web site. The main reason is that blogs lead the page with the latest post and work backwards through time. I think that format makes it more difficult for new readers to start at the beginning. For returning visitors I will soon include a "Jump to Latest Entry" link so you can go straight to the latest posting. I highly recommend beginning your own Quit Diary. You don't have to publish it on-line for all to see. A simple notepad and a pencil will do just fine. But it really helps to write about your experiences. LB Day
ONE - March 30, 2006 Tomorrow is another day. And another chance to get it right. I will do this. Day
ONE (Again) - March 31 I spent part of the morning working on a new essay: Starting Over. I got most of three pages of the rough draft completed. I'll try to finish the rough tomorrow morning. So. One day down. And the rest of my life to go. I'm going to go read for a bit and get some sleep. Day
TWO - April 1 Today was a day of rest, catching up after a grueling week. For the most part, the day went well - not too many craves, and not to bad when they came. In the early evening, however, there was one point where I was seriously jonesing for a smoke. I just did my best to grit my teeth and tough it out. There will be more of these, I know. But the only way I'm going to succeed is to get through them. One at a time. I know I should work a while longer on the site. But I'm not all here. I'm going to go read for a bit, then get some sleep. Knowing me, I'll be up fairly early and will work on the site some more tomorrow. Day
THREE - April 2 OK, for some of you, this may be a no-brainer, but for me, it was kind of important. I think the patch and Wellbutrin are helping with the physical part of the quit, but the habit still sneaks up on me. This has happened several times since I quit, but today I realized that it most often happens when I'm not actively engaged in doing something. If I'm busy, I'm OK. So . . . the key is to stay as busy as possible. Power went out tonight. A major wind and rainstorm knocked out one of the main power stations in town. I hate to go to sleep when the power's out, so I waited until it came back on. After setting all the clocks, I read for a bit and went to sleep. Three days done. Oh! And did I mention that I finished updating the site and loaded it on the web? Day FOUR - April 3 Today was a bit trying. It was the first full day of work. Woke up at 6 and was at the computer within minutes. It wasn't so much any withdrawal from nicotine - I'm on the patch, after all - it's more about the habits and routines that have built up again during my relapse. For instance, the old routine was: get up, turn on espresso machine, turn on computer, make cappuccino, drink same and smoke several cigarettes while reading e-mail, newsgroups and forum. When reading over material for editing, I'd often smoke and drink coffee. When I needed to give my eyes a rest, I'd smoke. Blech. I'm a creature of habit as much as anyone. So, breaking the habits is somewhat difficult. To help with that, I've been creating new habits. Instead of coffee, I'm drinking tea. Instead of reaching for a smoke, I'm reaching for gum or fruit. It's still rough, though. The other time that habit sets in is in the evening. After-dinner coffee and smokes. I'm still drinking coffee at night, but not smoking. But the habit gnaws at me sometimes. It seems to me that the best thing I can do is to continue creating new habits. And stay on the patch until these new behaviors take a strong hold. Day FIVE - April 4 Today I had my first serious stress-out. It had to do with something at work, and I don't want to go into it. Suffice to say that, midway through a conversation with a co-worker, I realized I was far more worked up about the subject than I should have been. I quickly apologized to my compadre and explained that I wasn't mad at him at all . . . just upset by the subject we were discussing. He was OK with it - he knows I'm in the beginning of my quit. Lesson learned: Pay attention to how I'm feeling - and why. Day SIX - April 5 Not a lot to report to day. A few craves here and there but, for the most part, not too bad. The most difficult one was when my drummer buddy showed up. He was out riding his motorcycle (it was a gorgeous day!) and stopped in to say hello after returning from an extended trip . . . so he didn't know I'd quit. I was in the middle of business call, so we couldn't talk right away. Before I realized it, he'd lit a cigarette. I got a few serious twinges while still on the phone. Thankfully, by the time I'd gotten off the phone, he'd put out the smoke. First thing I told him was that I'd quit smoking - and why. He was very apologetic about smoking in front of me, and didn't smoke the rest of the time he was here. Day SEVEN - April 6 Barely slept last night. Don't know if it was the patch, or perhaps the fact that I'd had too much caffeine during the day or what. Last night was just blah . . . was not in the best of moods. So, not really sure why I didn't sleep well - just know I tossed and turned most of the night. Woke up late this morning - which I hate to do. Then, within minutes, the computer starts making a weird buzzing sound. Grrrrr . . . Finally figured out that the sticker on the inside of the main fan had lost some adhesiveness and come loose a tad. The fan was now hitting it lightly as it turned . . . like a baseball card stuck in the spokes of a kid's bike. All's well that ends well. But, man! I hate mornings that start like this. At least I didn't succumb to the little voice in my head and have a cigarette. Day EIGHT- April 7 Man, did today suck! I woke up at 3:30 this morning. Tossed and turned until about 4, then realized I wasn't going to get back to sleep. OK, fine. I'll just get up and work, I thought. About 45 minutes into it, my computer just dies. Power supply just gave up. I set up on my laptop and went back to work -- thankfully, my company gave me the laptop a while back, for when I'm on the road. About 9, I took my computer in to the shop and had them replace the power supply and also put in a new CD/DVD RW drive with labeling capabilities. This was to replace the DVD drive that was from my previous computer. So, now have a CDRW and the new drive. At least I got something out of the deal. That got me to mid-afternoon. I spent the rest of the day and part of the evening just catching up on everything. It's still tough dealing with stress without cigarettes, but I made it. Day NINE - April 8 Some good news today. A drummer friend and I have been looking for a guitarist to work with. We've had a standing offer for a weekly gig at a local cafe. We finally got a call from someone here in town, and are meeting him tomorrow to see if we all enjoy playing with each other. Will be very happy to have a regular gig again. Spent a good part of the day cleaning the apartment. Was nice to air everything out and get some of the stale smoke smell out. It's just the beginning, I know . . . but at least it's a start. Not too many craves today . . . but also not a lot of stress. Day TEN - April 9 Had our first rehearsal with the new guitarist. He's very good, and sings pretty well, too. So, we're moving forward on that. As for the rest of the day, not much to report. No major craves. But I'm not stupid enough to think I've got this licked yet. Day ELEVEN - April 10 OK...this was a tough one. Most of the day went well. But later in the evening, I had to drive about 4 hours up to the corporate offices. I came up tonight so I'd be able to get tot he office first thing the next day. In the past, smoking and drinking coffee have been my two main activities while driving. So it was very strange to not smoke on this trip. To make things worse, I got stuck in a standstill due to construction - for on hour! An entire hour to move less than 1,000 feet. Then, I realize they had NO need whatsoever to block the left lane before the exit (on the left, naturally) I needed to take. GAWD! I HATE construction! But . . . I made it without killing anyone - and without smoking. Day TWELVE - April 11 Today went well. It was nice to see everyone at the office. Even better to tell them I'd quit smoking. I didn't do it to brag. Rather, it helps me to keep my commitment if I tell others about it. It's also nice to forewarn them in case I get antsy. The drive home was much better than last night - a warm and pleasant day, and no traffic slowdowns. Day THIRTEEN - April 12 Another beautiful day today. Opened up the balcony door and the windows and let the apartment air out some more. I stayed pretty busy -- Wednesday is the day we do our weekly web load on the company's site and it's always a busy day for me. It helps me to stay busy, so I don't mind a bit. Day FOURTEEN - April 13 Pretty good day, today. Didn't bite anyone's head off, nor did I want to. It seems that the patch is helping quite a bit with the whole "anxiety" thing. Still taking it one day at a time, and not getting cocky. Day FIFTEEN - April 14 OK, today wasn't a lot of fun. Had to make two 2-hour round trips to the computer shop. Driving longer distances is still tough for me. Am so used to smoking while I drive. *Sigh.* Still haven't found a good replacement for that. Chewing gum helps, but not as much as I'd like. To make matters worse, when I get the computer home, I realize they screwed up the name on the registration, and it can't be fixed except by reloading the OS again. MumbleGrumbleB*itchGripeMoan. So, I have to take it back tomorrow. Day SIXTEEN - April 15 Up early so I could take the computer back yet again. The shop was just as upset as I was. The manager gave the person who did the OS reload a VERY evil eye. Spent a few hours doing chores, then went back to get computer. Thankfully, they got it right this time. Finished the day doing more chores. Staying busy seems to be my best friend. Very few craves when I'm busy. Day SEVENTEEN - April 16 Easter Sunday. Didn't do much of anything today. Computer seems to be running better since the OS reload. No lockups so far. Knock on Wood. A lot! A few craves today, but all were pretty manageable. Day EIGHTEEN - April 17 Tax Day. And like all good Americans, I waited until the last minute to get my taxes done. Loaded up the software and dug in. Thankfully, it wasn't too hard to get through them. I had one crave at the very beginning -- I'm always stressed by taxes -- but it went away once I got into the software. Am now done. The forms are printing out now. Then, will sign and mail, and beat the deadline by several hours. <Laugh.> Day NINETEEN - April 18 Brain Fog® is starting to set in. I was pretty fuzzy all day, couldn't think straight. Cravings weren't too bad, thankfully. Let's just hope the fog passes quickly. Day TWENTY - April 19 Web Load day again. I was up before 7 this morning, and worked nonstop for three hours getting pages ready for the load, then sending them to our web guru. Took a short break, then back in front of the computer. Still foggy-headed, but at least I was able to work. Day TWENTY-ONE - April 20 Today was loads of fun. NOT! Up early again to get some things done before leaving for a hearing at the Department of Human Rights. The upshot is this: while working as manager of a clothing store, it became necessary to let an employee go because of his poor conduct. His negligence was costing the company a lot of money, and his attitude was costing it customers. Rather than accept that the company was no longer going to tolerate his extremely poor behavior, he accused them of age discrimination. As his last direct supervisor, the company asked me to attend the hearing and offer testimony. Oh, yeah. Just what I look forward to every day. In short, the whole thing sucked! But it was nice to tell two of my old coworkers that I'd quit smoking! <smile> Got home a little after 1, took a short nap, then hit the computer again. After a few hours off for dinner and such, I'm back again, updating some of my sites, including this on. As soon as I upload this page, I'm going to shut down the box and go read for a bit. Oh! One other thing. Today I wrote myself a note to stick above my kitchen sink to remind me to take a handful of vitamins every morning, along with a small glass of aloe juice. Part of my plan is to do all I can to get healthy and to not eat so much. So, I'm hoping this note will help take my vitamins every morning. We'll see! <laugh> Day TWENTY-TWO - April 21 OK, I'm pissed! I just got a bill from the clinic I visited just before I quit smoking. This was about the illness that scared me into quitting again. When I called to book an appointment, I asked them if they took my insurance. They said "yes". So I set an appointment. And when I arrived, I filled out the paperwork and they made a copy of my insurance card. And I asked again if they took my insurance. And, again, the said "yes". So I get the bill today. For THREE THOUSAND FLIPPIN' DOLLARS! Long story short: it turns out that I'm going to have to pay the entire thing. Talk about stressed out! But I didn't smoke. Yeah, I thought about it - or, at least, the NicoDemon® suggested it would help. But I didn't fall for it. I've already filed a complaint with the clinic's billing office, and I think I'm going to talk to a lawyer. Day TWENTY-THREE - April 22 Ah, Saturday. You'd think it was a time to rest, right? WRONG! I spent most of the day working on things I normally do at the beginning of the week. However, this week I'm heading to California for a training trip. Because of this, I have about a dozen hours of work to get done before I leave. So that's mostly what I did today - worked on that stuff. It was a gorgeous day today, so I opened the sliding glass door that leads to my balcony, and both of my bedroom windows, to let the apartment air out a bit. It's slowly losing that "smoker's reek", for which I am very thankful. Day TWENTY-FOUR - April 23 Spent more time getting my work caught up today. I also cleaned the apartment. Vacuumed, dusted, cleaned the kitchen, changed the sheets on my bed, cleaned the bathroom. This all served two purposed. First, when I go out of town I like to come home to a clean house. Second, it helped freshen things up a bit. One of the great things about quitting is that you get your sense of smell back. One problem with this, however, is that you can smell that stale smoke in your home. So it's always a good thing to do a thorough cleaning. With my schedule, it's taken me longer than I would have preferred. But I'm getting it done bit by bit, and today I got a good bit done. So I'm feeling pretty good about that. You won't see any new entries here until I get back from my trip on Thursday. I'm going to write my entries while I'm gone, and will post them when I get back. Until then -- NO SMOKING! Day TWENTY-FIVE - April 24 Had to get up at one in the morning in order to get to Indianapolis in time for my flight. Yow!!!!! From there, flew to Atlanta; had a one hour layover, then on to LA. Driving is still a trigger for me, so the 90-minute trip to Indy was kind of a pain - especially in the middle of the night. But the long flight wasn't so bad. It was actually kind of nice to sit in Atlanta and NOT worry about whether or not I had time to sneak out for a smoke then make it back through security. Once I got to LA, the trouble started, however, and I had several trigger moments. To begin with, no one showed up to get me. It seems that communications got crossed, and the person with whom I'd be working Tuesday and early Wednesday thought I was coming in Monday evening and would make my own transportation arrangements. Long story short - after several calls, I finally got a ride. Next problem: no one booked me a hotel room. DAMMIT!! So off we go to find a room. After refusing a couple of $180 per night offerings, finally found a Quality Inn or some such for less than half that. OK, fine. Then, the dang Wireless Network was down. Arrrrrrrggggghhhh! Finally get that back (thanks to tech support) and my corporate mail server is down. *whimper* Make it through that, get some dinner, and decide to hit the sack, because I've been up for something like twenty hours. Did I mention my room was ten feet from the ice, soda and snack machines? If I could have gotten away with it, I'd have killed someone. Day TWENTY-SIX - April 25 Here's my day: Drive to get coffee. Drive to first store for staff training. Talk for an hour or so. Drive to next store. Talk. Lunch. Drive. Talk. Drive. Talk. Drive to hotel. Sleep. Still had the urge to smoke during the drives but, thankfully, the guy I'm driving with is a nonsmoker, so wasn't too tempted. Day TWENTY-SEVEN - April 26 A lot like yesterday, except one less appointment. And at the last stop, we did a "Meet & Greet" in the evening. This is an informal opportunity for our end-users to come out and say Hi . . . meet me face to face. Two guys from our forum showed up, and I got to spend about fifteen minutes talking to another user on the phone. Also met some walk-ins. Then, the trouble starts. Don't ask me how it's possible, but it took us an hour and a half to get to a hotel five minutes away. Exactly how many times can you take the wrong turn in three miles? By my count, at least twelve. One word, fellah: MapQuest! Get checked into hotel, drag all my crap a half mile to my room. Keycard doesn't work. Try again. And again. And again. And again. Drag crap back to desk. They "fix" it. Drag crap back to room. They didn't "fix" it. Drag crap back to desk. Notice scissors on counter. Cut card in half. Tell clerk to get me new card. He blinks and stares. Doesn't say a word, which is very smart. Gets new card and escorts me to room and opens door for me. Then stands around like he's expecting a tip. Here's a tip, pal: Get it right the first time. Or even the second. Don't make me walk a mile and a half and expect me to pay you for the freaking privilege. Ate a whole Papa John's pizza for dinner while watching Law and Order. Was afraid to leave room to go to restaurant down the street. Day TWENTY-EIGHT - April 27 Up early for flight. Not as bad as trip out, though. Got to sleep in until 5. Quick cab ride to airport. Security takes a bit of time, so was glad I'd left myself some time. Even had time to get a quintuple-shot latte for plane ride. Got the blank stare "Are you sure?" bit from the barrista (a high falutin' word for a low-paid coffee maker). Shutup and gimme my coffee before I bite your head off. Felt like eating a freakin' patch, as I'm not looking forward to a day of travel. Today wasn't as bad as the travel out. Only had to fly to Cincinnati for my connection, so that flight was much shorter. From there to Indy is literally an up and down affair. During the drive home, I made several calls, so that took my mind off smoking while driving. Spent some times getting reacquainted with my kitties. It sure is nice to be welcomed so fully when I get home. Lots of petting and purring. Unconditional love. If either of them could cook, I'd be in heaven. A nice home-cooked meal and an evening spent reading and I was almost normal again. Day TWENTY-NINE - April 28 Ahhhh...Friday. I'm sure glad to have this week over. Today was a pretty good day. Got caught up on email and such for work, then took the rest of the day off. Took my newest bass -- a Washburn BB6 for those who care -- to my local music store to have it set up. Alan did a wonderful job, and the bass now plays so much better! Later, I went to meet with a potential recording client. Turned out he's a legend in his own mind. We did a few "sample" tracks -- even though he wanted me to record complete song for each track, I only did a few minutes for each track. Told him I'd be glad to record the entire track if he'd pay me. But, no, you're not getting it for free. Could tell from the response, and the look, that he was hoping for just that. I'm actually hoping he doesn't call back. I really hate working with people like that . . . always watching your back to make sure they don't knife you. Day THIRTY - April 29 Today was pretty OK. Went to Pekin to meet with a band I'll be working with. The lead guitarist is co-owner of a recording studio. We've worked out a deal to trade services. I'll be assisting the band with marketing, promo and such, for which I'll get free studio time. I'll apply this to recording a new CD . . . something I've been working towards for years. So, am pretty happy about that. The drive was again a bit difficult. But crushed the craves with food. That always works for me! LOL . . . Spent the evening with pizza and movies. Was nice to just kick back and relax. Hey, I deserve it! Day THIRTY-ONE - April 30 Not much to report today. Spent part of the day catching up on cleaning up paperwork and such. Did a major WalMarts run. Yeah, that's plural. For some reason, most people around here always put an S after WalMart or K-Mart. Anyway, I always end up walking about a hundred miles in that place. And come out with four times as much stuff as I planned on getting. Early to bed to get ready for the week. Day THIRTY-TWO - May 1 Slammed with work today. I have to go up to the corporate headquarters Wednesday, and those trips always throw me out of whack. In addition, there are some MAJOR changes going on and they're adding to the stress level. Thankfully, I haven't smoked, although the thought has sure crossed my mind. I get to a certain point and the stress seems to open the door to the NicoDemon's cell. Out he pops with promises that a cigarette will make me feel better. Yeah, right. Dying is so much fun. To combat this, I drink some juice, chew some gun, read my Emergency Response Card, go outside and take some deep breaths, among other things. Day THIRTY-THREE - May 2 Again, lots to do today. Spent most of the day preparing the stuff for our weekly web load. A lot of that time was spent editing an interview with one of our endorsing artists. On one hand, this is one of my favorite parts of my job, as I get to talk in-depth with another bassist. On the other hand, it's a pain in the neck to sift through numerous e-mails and Q&A documents to get everything together. Had a big ol' store-bought lasagna for dinner, along with garlic bread and salad. Ate way too much, and it sat in my stomach like a brick. Could sleep on my stomach! <laughs> Yeah, my appetite is running rampant since I quit. I was never a light eater, but now, I could eat a buffalo without help. . . and almost without cooking. Day THIRTY-FOUR - May 3 Web load day. Up very early to get everything done. Then, answered a ton of emails and went through the forum. Got on the road about 2:30 and made it to ChicagoLand without much in the way of traffic. Met my boss at the hotel and headed straight to a working dinner. We ate a great Greek restaurant - Opa! - which is one of our favorites. Stuffed ourselves on thecombination platter - you get to choose three or more small portions of several entrée items. Then, pack it all down with a broom stick so you can fit the baklava. Yum! Day THIRTY-FIVE - May 4 Spent the morning and early afternoon in meetings, one right after the other. Made a lot of progress on the BIG PROJECT. I can't say anything yet, as the company hasn't made its announcement. Suffice to say that it's going to get very interesting over the next few months. Picked up a new speaker cabinet to add to the collection. Can't wait to try it out. Hit the road about 1, and made it home in time for dinner. Fried chicken from the local grocery store, cole slaw, potato salad and macaroni salad. And pie for dessert. Chocolate, of course! I've got to say, driving is still a major trigger for me. It was worse on the way home, because I had to deal with slow traffic for the first hour or so of the trip. Stop and go, stop and go, stop and GO ALREADY!!!!!! That kind of thing. Before I quit, I would probably have smoked 7 or 8 cigarettes in that time. Instead, today I chewed a pack of gum. Day THIRTY-SIX - May 5 Worked a half-day today, then did some errands. Finally nailed down a deal to do a weekly gig at a local cafe. Will be playing Saturday's 5-8PM, so home early. With the traveling I do, it's very hard to book during the week, so am very pleased to be doing this gig. I've always enjoyed performing live, and this is a very low-key, casual gig. No pressure, just a lot of fun. Watched Brokeback Mountain tonight. I was a very good movie, but I never want to see it again! And, yes, the first "love" scene made me VERY uncomfortable. Man, they sure smoked a lot in that movie. Was interesting to look back on it afterwards and realize that watching the smokers didn't make me want to smoke, though. That's got to be a good thing! Day THIRTY-SEVEN - May 6 Saturday schedule applies. Chores. Errands. Stuff self with food. Chew lots of gum. No smoking. This evening, watched a Quentin Tarrantino movie called Hostel. Yow! Sick movie. Another one I never want to see again. One cool thing: I met my primary guitarist today. A few days ago, I mentioned that I'd nailed down a weekly gig (on Saturday). These will be at Charlotte's, a local cafe. I've been talking to Alan, the local guy that does the set-up work on my basses; through him, I've secured commitments from three guitarists (Alan among them) to cover these dates. I've also connected with another guitarist, three drummers, a singer (female), a sax player and a young hot-shot multiinstrumentalist who plays drums, guitar and bass. And I've got a line on several more possibilities. Wow! All of sudden, the damn has broken and I'm finally getting to know the musical community around here. Anyhoo, I met the guy I think is going to be my principal guitarist. This is going to be interesting, I think. The only problem: he's a smoker. I'll be damned if I'm going to go all New Quitter on him or anything. I'm just sayin' I'm going to have to be on my guard, and not cave. Day THIRTY-EIGHT - May 7 Ah, Sunday. Hung around the apartment. Cleaned. Wrote. Read. Drank coffee. Good day. Spent a lot of time gathering lyrics from the Net and formatting them. All told, I want to have about sixty songs available by next Saturday. No time for smoking! LOL Day THIRTY-NINE - May 8 Back to the grind. Up running early. Worked all day and night. Mostly on work stuff, but also preparing for Saturday. Am exhausted. I'm going to go read and pet my cats. Day FORTY - May 9 Another busy day working. Nothing to really write about - except that I didn't smoke. Day FORTY-ONE - May 10 Well, today was a rush. After getting everything done for the upload to our web site, I took the time to do a few errands. One of those was to drop by Gary's house. We had a blast getting to know each other better! We spent most of our time mapping out our strategy. Later this evening, Gary called and we got to yakking. After a few minutes of that, I told him he should just come over, so he did! <laughs> We worked for two hours and then some. Got a lot done. Almost 30 songs already checked off as ready-to-perform. Lost more to go, though. Day FORTY-TWO - May 11 Not a lot to report today. Work was constant, and later worked again on lyrics for several hours. I'm beat. Reading, petting cats, bed. In that order. Day FORTY-THREE - May 12 Big woo-hoo! I got my new amplifier today. Didn't get to play it, but at least it's here. Hopefully I'll get to check it all out tomorrow. Got most of the day off from work, so spent several hours with Gary, getting ready for the gigs. Tomorrow's show has been canceled because of a cold and rainy front that will be here all weekend. It's been miserable today, and will be for the rest of the weekend. Even so, Gary and I worked hard, and got another 18 or 20 songs down. Ate myself senseless this afternoon and evening. Oh. My. Dog! Paid for it later. © 2006 by Lane Baldwin |
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